Mental Health Whack-A-Mole

Mental health stigma…just…sucks. And, to be honest, I’m one of the lucky ones. I had already completed a master’s degree in counseling (even though we never do great helping ourselves), thus, I could recognize some warning signs for when things were getting a little too out of control for me. Almost seven years ago, I…

The “Chunk Filter” (Van Hise, 2016)

Welp…it’s been almost three weeks since surgery. To be honest, there are days when I’m a little run down, harder to get myself going. Other days, energy is there. I do have to remember that I was suffering from some post-operative anemia, so giving my body the time to rest and replenish is important (not…

Hangry

I’m not sure if any of you have ever done a liquid diet before…I had done the dreaded “colonoscopy prep” five or so times in my life already and that was already brutal. Also, wanting sports drinks or soup after having a 24-hour stomach bug, different. Your body just needs the soothing that comes from…

I’m fat.

Yup. That’s right. I’m fat. At my highest adult weight, I was 408 pounds (hence the name of this blog collection). Of course it didn’t start that way, but it definitely ended at that. In this collection, I’m going to reflect on my life, tell you a little bit about the influences on my weight…

On Privilege in the Trump Era

I’ve said this multiple times before, especially when I’m conducting a workshop or training. I really didn’t realize that I was a White man until I was about 24. Yeah, I know. Right? Talk about privilege…see, I had become pretty focused on my subordinated identity as a gay person that I didn’t really leave time/room/effort…

On Sitting Down…

Even if you’re not a sports fan, you would be hard-pressed to have escaped the coverage of San Francisco 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick’s recent and continued protest over the United States’ treatment of people of color. He has decided that he will no longer stand for the National Anthem. If you want a summary, here…

Rape is Not “Actions”

Like many, I’ve been caught up in the swarm of articles, petitions, and opinion pieces surrounding convicted rapist Brock Turner, a 20-year-old former Stanford University swimmer with “aspiring Olympic dreams.” According to an article in The Atlantic, Turner was convicted of three felony counts based upon his rape of an unconscious female student who was…

On Pride…

So, today is June 1, the official start of LGBT Pride Month! A month of parties, commemorations, parades, and festivals that helps bring significant visibility to a population that must consistently fight to be seen. You see, one of the main ways that dominant cultures keep subordinated groups oppressed is by keeping them and their…

On Bathrooms…

In the last month, I’ve watched countless news broadcasts and social media updates focusing on first, North Carolina’s HB2 with its restriction on bathroom access, and then, a directive from the Obama administration to allow transgender youth access to bathrooms in their public schools that corresponds to their gender identity. I’ve waited to put my…

On Donating Blood…

Word is that the FDA has “finally lifted their ban on gay men donating blood.” For those of you who didn’t know how this all went down, you’d go up, fill out the questionnaire for men and whatnot, and one of the questions was “Have you ever had sex with a man, even once, since…