On Privilege in the Trump Era

I’ve said this multiple times before, especially when I’m conducting a workshop or training. I really didn’t realize that I was a White man until I was about 24. Yeah, I know. Right? Talk about privilege…see, I had become pretty focused on my subordinated identity as a gay person that I didn’t really leave time/room/effort…

On Sitting Down…

Even if you’re not a sports fan, you would be hard-pressed to have escaped the coverage of San Francisco 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick’s recent and continued protest over the United States’ treatment of people of color. He has decided that he will no longer stand for the National Anthem. If you want a summary, here…

Rape is Not “Actions”

Like many, I’ve been caught up in the swarm of articles, petitions, and opinion pieces surrounding convicted rapist Brock Turner, a 20-year-old former Stanford University swimmer with “aspiring Olympic dreams.” According to an article in The Atlantic, Turner was convicted of three felony counts based upon his rape of an unconscious female student who was…

On Pride…

So, today is June 1, the official start of LGBT Pride Month! A month of parties, commemorations, parades, and festivals that helps bring significant visibility to a population that must consistently fight to be seen. You see, one of the main ways that dominant cultures keep subordinated groups oppressed is by keeping them and their…

On Bathrooms…

In the last month, I’ve watched countless news broadcasts and social media updates focusing on first, North Carolina’s HB2 with its restriction on bathroom access, and then, a directive from the Obama administration to allow transgender youth access to bathrooms in their public schools that corresponds to their gender identity. I’ve waited to put my…

On Donating Blood…

Word is that the FDA has “finally lifted their ban on gay men donating blood.” For those of you who didn’t know how this all went down, you’d go up, fill out the questionnaire for men and whatnot, and one of the questions was “Have you ever had sex with a man, even once, since…

On Ms. Madison…(Ashley, that is…)

I guess the cat’s out of the bag now, eh? The headline-grabbing hack of Ashley Madison and subsequent disclosure of the 38 million users’ personal information has opened a door on a notion that many beyond these 38 million wished stayed shut–heterosexuals and heterosexual relationships are not perfect and that’s okay. Before you lose it…

On Marriage…

I was in my car. Driving back home after a visit to friends when I turned on the news in my car. It was almost 10 a.m. and I waited…anticipating the worst. I was apprehensive, yet, had feigned for years that this sort of fight (for marriage rights that is…) wasn’t one that was going…

On Charleston…

It’s unfathomable to me. I just don’t quite understand–how can someone make a conscious choice to enter a house of worship and systematically annihilate those inside? What is it about this person, in some ways similar to me, White and male, that sees difference as such a threat? Extrapolating interactions that he may have witnessed…